Report GESEF
National Conference on Family
Florence 24-25-26 May 2007
Dad: the absent unacceptable
I borrow the title of a book - as famous as appreciated - the analyst Claudio Rise, to summarize the space vacuum that the conference has deliberately left this to the entire course of its work.
Come to order. Session that was organized by the Conference were 10, each subdivided into two or more sub-theme. Each session was opened by a speaker with its own written introduction.
The work, which took place on Friday, the intervention consisted of each participant - With a time available for 5 / 7 minutes, and the possibility of a subsequent replication - to discuss the results of its activities and proposals (also in a written document) to be provided to the Minister. After the session, the coordinator made an instant summary of the topics covered, and the rapporteur - this never speak - had the task of developing what has emerged during the discussions in a report of address, to be presented publicly to the Government the following morning.
should be noted that, in general, introductory sessions on the subjects of our interest (family law, courts, social services, family relations and generational violence inside and outside the family, socio / educational, cultural conditioning etc..) projected a very adherent to the reality we know.
Strong criticism of the inadequacy of operational and professional services, the inability of the social system to cope with the fragility of families from whom the discomfort and deviance of youth, the violence inherent in the mechanism of "protection of the child", the media context / culture where "bad teachers" threaten to unity solidarity of the family, preaching the narcissistic individualism. Although the accents do not ever lie on the responsibility of upstream has tolerated and encouraged this deterioration is undeniably a self-criticism by the same speakers, as institutional traders.
Gesef The delegation was registered to attend the session Family Violence and Repair. The report
hours of analyst Simona Argentieri has highlighted the many aspects, more or less obvious, of family violence, including that the woman acted on the children and passing on humans. In short, a blow to the rim and a barrel. Censoring, however, the obsessive way to use psychology for the victims, and the judiciary to the executioners. And citing the sensitivity of the operators to bring out and ally themselves with the healthy part of individuals, to help them in time to overcome the negative forces them to react violently. Beautiful
intervention guest Bellussi Germano, 77enne lawyer and psychologist. He began condemning the mother figure of the father's role also carries inadequate, cultural and absence of the father: "... the problem is not the physical absence, think of the immigrants whose photograph hangs in the kitchen was a symbol for the children ... .. "Hostile to pathologization obsessive behavior without any proper contextualization, the uncertain border between pedophilia and natural physical contact and the consequent fear that inhibits male attitudes. Hard on the judicial front, "disaster ... where law and psychology meet, both unable to give answers ... ... .. really abused or not, the most serious violence against the child is carried out by operators in the process .... "Another
coordinator 's Lawyer Marco Scarpati responsible for the association ECPAT, during his speech, echoed: "... .. judges and lawyers like elephants in a china shop: even when there was no abuse on the child, once out of the crystal is shattered. Who breaks, however, the damages will not ever pay them. "
After that the participants in the work - about a hundred mostly women - only thirty have registered to speak.
's so began the procession of the counter-violence, which took turns at the microphone reciting the complete repertoire of feminist whining: males all murderers, rapists, pedophiles, extortionists, pimps, murderers anywhere in the world and in India also faces Bruiser and Pakistan. And down dell'ecatombe statistics and data supporting women in action, showing just the tip of the iceberg, even more frightening figures of the underground economy.
And then, fanatical invocations for the rapid approval of the bill Pollastrini against gender violence, to the tightening of existing sanctions without reduction of sentences pardons and settlements, for the pre-trial detention for medical treatment required thugs to rapists and pedophiles, for the extension of blanket policies of re-education starting from primary male.
And again: the representation of its function as the universal saving mission designed to bring out the black economy, a nest wherever they find the violence, to break down the wall of silence, to support all women to become aware and recognize themselves as victims freed from the senses of guilt. A mission that requires more funding so that more concrete than the institutional recognition that will allow all centers to bring a civil processes. In other words to draw money to poor people to court as a matter of office rather than complaint. Needless to
the unanimous chorus of approval in favor of the bill on SAY.
The ladies followed each other with knowledge, convinced of the audience sharing their truth and subsequent instances. Except that the audience began to roar.
A couple of lawyers have argued that stole the microphone, especially when separated, one-sided violence is recorded just happened on the opposite side.
my turn came I made the most of the few minutes available. After a brief overview of international studies, which showed that violence intra pair are the prerogative of both sexes on an equal footing, while child abuse and female infanticide are a record, I dismantled the scientific value of research Istat, illustrating how the counterpart of Gesef on the man-victim father. I concluded - using a second operation - with the need for a socio-cultural change that recognizes the value and dignity of the father figure and an end to the conflict between the sexes, with imbalance of power and ensuing violence, to contain also the youth problems, the 'misery of women, the disintegration of family responsibilities. Proposing practical solutions appropriate to the government.
Wonder has chilled the room. Evidently the interlocutors are not accustomed to be heard, much less to be unmasked by conclusive data submitted by another woman. And no one dared challenge them. So that subsequent interventions are divided into two sides: those who have tried to backtrack, saying that obviously not all men are violent, rather they are already operating international men's groups who recognize publicly the violence of others and fight for us not to accomplices (White Ribbon Campaign). The head of research
Istat on the mistreatment of women has felt compelled to clarify and substantiate the methodology. Others have instead
spit venom.
A would-be director, that a laboratory theater has distilled an anti-violence center (The Nereids - Syracuse), growled that even if some man-father is being blackmailed economically or instrumentally accused, compensates those many more who do not pay for food or are abusers go unpunished.
Another, a missionary in Central Friuli anti-abuse, he shot big: men also turn to her for help, the ones already passed in the associations of fathers who tell of unspeakable things. A third declared the law deleterious shared custody, which further raises the woman under blackmail, already weak subject par excellence.
Meanwhile, the grumbling became a roar: contributions from lawyers have stopped doing any work I loudly repel each word, without hesitation and on the verge of rudeness, astonished that almost no one invited me to leave the room.
The last attack against the party coordinator. At the end of the day, Prof. Isabella Merzagora Batsos summed up the results of the work: we need new laws sanctioning el'approntamento capillary services to curb male violence against women and children, the woman remains weak player in economic terms, then lack of equal opportunities shared custody is not applicable (sic) men, beginning with those few in the audience, must take action to solve the problem of complicity and in synergy with the women fight violence surges from other men, re-education through the establishment of mutual-help groups. Place
While drawing on the faces of a feminist evident satisfaction, and lead on the explicit accusation Professor of bias, for ignoring all instances emerged during the work differing from his personal ideology, previously outlined, the that statement in that context seemed criminal. And in any case, through which the rapporteur had an obligation to forward, would be received by the Minister Bindi written documents relating to the intervention of Gesef, besides a complaint about the bad faith with which the coordinator had summarized la sessione tematica, peraltro interamente registrata.
Arriviamo così a sabato mattina
Di fronte ad una platea di circa tre mila persona, dove in prima fila sedeva il gotha governativo (è arrivato anche il Presidente del Consiglio) e partitico, i rapporteur hanno iniziato a leggere le relazioni riassuntive.
In sintesi:
Ripetuta infinite volte la parola famiglia, il concetto era però riferito non ad un soggetto unitario ma esclusivamente alle donne che, solo loro, si prendono cura di bambini, adolescenti, anziani, handicappati, giovani in cerca di lavoro e casa. Soluzioni quindi prospettate per categorie: handicap, anziani, asili, accesso al lavoro per le donne, accesso a lavoro ed alla casa per i young people in order to facilitate the construction of new families. Aimed at reducing women to be so overwhelming weight, or at least monetarizzarn functions.
no mention of the fact that falling birth rates and poor attitude of young males to reproduce may also attributable to the consequences of separation. And maybe that's why I prefer to suffer the moral blackmail - to be controlled - their mothers, rather than risk suffering - lifetime and no defense - the economic and judicial system that regulates separation and custody of children to come.
Regardless of the tendency inherent in the pejorative I say, also highly acclaimed. Family policies
colored pink. The woman at the center of each speech apologetic about his duties of care. Therefore resources channeled to support services exclusively in its favor, with well-known (although they mostly pink) necessarily emancipated from the state of insecurity. Or taxation easier for companies to facilitate flexible working hours and provided absolutely respectful of parental leave (with pay instead of 30% to 70%) and maternity.
Well it is women who rule the world.
question arises: how did our grandmothers, and all previous generations, to rule the world with a deluge of children attached to her skirts, fatigue is not flexible in the fields and mills, where the services are not there, the appliances were fiction, not a vacuum state the fees and post-partum depression is a rare luxury for privileged? And their children are grown mostly honest. Compared to the current generation of women - so troubled by endless trouble and needs - the old ones would have ended long ago. Yet, since we also have rudimentary statistics, the number of widows by far surpasses that of widowers. Mysteries like this!
Women, through which the world rolls on, even aspire to engage in work outside the family if that world is adapted pretty to their needs. Only in this way - he said - may be realized fully without affecting the birth rate.
No one dared to say that - deprived of the opportunity to occupy positions of power - most women-mothers is very happy to be home when someone else is able to maintain it properly. In fact there is no news of home as opposed to husbands or mine workers in blast furnaces, in the name of equal right to work.
are used exclusively maternity or parenting. Father and fatherhood looming, but remain unnamed.
only income is worthy of consideration: tax deductions are assumed to be conveyed to the obligatory partner in the form of monetization of the tasks of care. Pretending to ignore that any single-income family man already put in the hands of the partner (burden or honor?) full salary for the management of the ménage. On the other hand, the fact that a forty-five could lose their jobs is no problem even touched: no income women with children are already protected.
Separation and divorce also unnamed items. We talk about the fragility of the family, whose solution is proposed with the strengthening of family mediation. The rapporteur has admitted that a family that comes apart, leaving two inevitably impoverished, looking like a wise and promising debut. Except that two sentences later concluded that, as it did in its region should be established a state fund to the extent that the mother had separated when her ex-husband is inottemperante. The state then will fall back on it, intimidated, because dealing with the state tax collector is not the same thing as having to do with a poor defenseless mother.
comes to the latest report on domestic violence. We were prepared to listen to the disaster as summarized by the coordinator of Isabella Merzagora Batsos session, and instead ... .. None of this was made official. We are accustomed to silence the whining. Everything has been reduced to solitude which left the new mother, and the consequent distress matrix of all the violence. Between the lines: the most striking domestic violence and alarming is that perpetrated by depressed mothers who are killing children. Solution: deprecarizzare intervention facilities ... .. promote development of advice ... .. (With) professional clear, real faces to restore the dialogue, keep open the relationship with the outside of the family relationships of trust and mature. We could not miss, however, hint at the rapid expansion of the Observatory on Pedophilia.
ideological wave of radical feminism and warmongering is not passed. At least officially. Looks forward to final results.
The final gem: where to find money for the family capillary action so as it seems not be more able to cope with any of his functions? Simple: tax increases for singles.
married, divorced, whether fathers or not, even from the dead (think of the survivors), men continue to pay for all, without getting anything in return. When is a good
unspoken question emerges continuously. Tell us
Minister Bindi, a father separated / divorced that if the children in accordance with pre-printed tables in force at all Italian courts: two weekends a month, two afternoons a week, twenty days of summer, one week during Christmas holidays Easter and birthdays in alternate years, is a single or a family? You can use the
splitting income with respect to utilities and taxes, or in addition to maintaining two homes for children and often the whole ex-wife, will be further ill-treated as a single?
Vincenzo Spavone - GESEF
